Parenting, Part 3

Enjoy yourselves!  Being a parent is a great thing. When you can embrace all that you are as a parent, your child flourishes beyond measure.

I remember when my daughter was a toddler and I forgot pampers at least three times. I forgot snacks, drinks and activities countless times. I suffered immensely each time. No one could console me because of. I beat myself up, feeling insufficient to be parent of a world citizen. When I was carrying my daughter, I declared that she would be a world citizen. In those moments where I felt incompetent, I questioned that. The years of this self discovering journey called parenting culminated in an epiphany that had me see that I was a great mom just as I was. 

Through the beautiful way that I loved my child, the extremes I would go to to ensure her access to making a difference in the world, the values I devoutly gave her, the mistakes I have made with caretakers, the times I left town for work and questioned whether or not I should have, the parties I encouraged her to attend to ‘get out there’, the times I have trained her to ‘be bored’, and many the other situations I questioned myself in, they are all a part of me as a parent. 

I did what I did and my child is who she is. Life will deal you a mixed hand every moment of every day. How you play the hand and being okay with choosing to stay, take a hit or fold is up to you. Our risks as parents are more challenging than any card game will ever be. Forgive yourselves for what you did not intend to have happen, cherish and acknowledge yourselves for all of the victories you have had. Enjoy your life and enjoy your relationships with your children. You are the amazing designer. And what a masterpiece you’ve made! Keep creating it.

Andrea Swinton